Most of us have heard the saying assuming makes an ass (out of) u (and) me.

But did you know that assumptions are considered the lowest form of knowledge?

And yet we ass-u-me we know exactly what our partner wants and needs. We then act accordingly, and are stunned and hurt when we find out we were wrong.

The cure for making assumptions

Did you know that there is a cure for making assumptions? Well, I usually try to make things as simple and useable as possible, without all the psycho-babble junk.

As Albert Einstein said:

Everything should be made as simple as possible but no simpler.

But this time Im going to have to get a little complicated and show off that high priced degree for which I worked so hard. Hold on to your seats, and get pen and paper in hand, because here comes a very complex and sophisticated psychological principle:

The cure for assuming is to (drum roll, please.....) ASK!

Thats right ask.

It really can be that simple.

And away with the silly notion that if you have to ask then it doesnt mean as much. As speaker and author Mark Victor Hansen (Chicken Soup for the Soul) is fond of saying,

you have to A-S-K to G-E-T.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com

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