In the politics of love, the perfect break-up etiquette is a rarity. There aren't any '50 ways to leave your lover. Even though cool dudes might dismiss this theory as pure trash, the way you end your last relationship surely define the pattern of your next relationship. Here's the catch line: Don't leave like a louse! Whatever your reasons for a breakup, it doesn't mean you should have callous attitude. Ask Diana at Online Dating Guide/Expert to know how modern love follows this break up formula: Point 1: We Had Fun.
Point 2: It's over.
Point 3: Get Lost. Most people couldn't care less about how they walk away from a relationship. If it's over they simply switch off. The way you leave a relationship speaks volumes about the type of person you are. And it also shapes your partner's future perceptions of himself or herself and about love. Bitter break ups produce bitter people. A college student of 18 year old says' Bad breakups make you feel confused about your self. You don't initially understand that the guy is being complete coward and can't deal with uncomfortable situations. Almost all my ex-boyfriend didn't know how to end a relationship' 'Sit down in semi public place as it is less messy. There's no need to give a detailed account of why you are breaking up. But be truthful, as that's half the battle won. Put your cards on the table. Don't be rude say things like 'you're duller than watching paint or I'm hot for your roommate'. That's the crude. Tact is a skill. Don't bee afraid to tell the person that you had fun, but you need to spend some time alone, that you're looking something more substantial.
It seems that men usually avoid breakup situations. They would rather stop calling, concluding that a woman will eventually 'figure it out'. The terrible thing about this way operating is that it never allows a lover to bring closure to the relationship and heal properly. And please don't use the line that you need to 'find yourself ', or you're commitment-phobic or 'you're too nice to be mine' lines, they're big clich's! Of course, there are worse ways to break off: phone breakups are terrible. And email breakups are worse. 'If you break up in a healthy manner, you'll heal faster and have happier future relationship. Remember, with messy breakups, if you're in the same city or profession, you'll never be able to look the person in the eye' says the experts. |
