The word Sex simultaneously arouses some of the greatest feelings of passion and contempt. It is easy to confuse it with Love and vice versa. Sexuality becomes more difficult to fathom when relationships begin to mature and lose their initial dazzle. For the first time the partners begin to see each other beyond the fire of passion and are shocked that the god or goddess in front is nothing but a human. We all like the feeling of getting involved in a new romance. It is hard not to want those wild emotions or the uncertain expectations with which you try a new hairdo while happily dreaming and smiling at yourself. The feelings suddenly make you feel like a whole new person no more caught in the boring daily life of getting up by an alarm, running through the subway all to meet an angry and eternally unsatisfied boss. When you are in the arms of your lover that deep look into the eyes can suddenly make all the worries, frustrations and pains flowing through your veins begin to evaporate. At least momentarily you are free and filled with excitement. However, when you get away from your lover the excitement begins to subside. Life returns to normal, except you are left with the question of what if. What if that passion could be repeated again and again every moment of your life? Unfortunately as it happens in many relationships desire is not converted into love and the passion dies out. Or the lovers begin to resent each other for those very same passionate moments, not knowing they can extend the passion indefinitely if they learn to love. They begin to feel deceived and to put the deceiver in the right place power struggles break-out damaging both themselves, their lover and the relationship. The fire of sexual passion can never be extinguished as long as we live. Sages across thousands of years and psychologists of modern science have confirmed the power of sexuality. You can never destroy your sexual self but you can transform it into something burning off the eternal fuel which we call Love rather than the illusionary feelings of temporary desire. Focus on learning to love. |
