How many times have you felt the need to bash up someone and found yourself helpless? How many times have you felt like screaming at your boss but had to restrain yourself? How many times you wanted to punch a bully but could not? Not any more if you follow this little advice. When you are angry with someone, do not fight or confront the person. As soon as you feel the anger, take yourself in a quiet place. Preferably sit down on a chair. Take a few deep breaths. Imagine that the person you want to give out to or thrash up, is standing in front of you. Then deal with the person in the same manner as your feelings dictate. If you want to bash them up, do so. If you want to scream at them, do so. If you want to punch that person, do so. Carry on doing the activity in your mind, till you notice your anger calming down. When you are satisfied, you can stop and then open the eyes. I have been using this exercise for last many years with my patients. It does not require confronting the person. You get the tension and anger out of your system. The other party never needs to know how angry you felt about them. It does not spoil your relationship with the person. |
