Have you ever blamed someone else for something? Did you do that blaming whether that person was at fault or not? Did you ever get out of some problem or punishment because you falsely accused someone of something they did not do? Did you ever blame yourself for something that you had no control over? Do you feel guilt because something happened to you that was such a surprise that you could barely react, let alone think things through? Whatever you did to others or yourself does not matter because the facts are the facts. All the blaming in the world does not change one thing. So whether you did something you should have not done or something happened to you that you had no control over one thing remains clear. The facts are the facts. Yes there can be circumstances around why you did something, but the fact that it happened remains unmovable. Although what matters is HOW you react to something and (within reason) not what happened TO YOU is important. The facts are the facts and you must deal with this world reality. All the wishing, hoping and crying will not change what needs to be done about what has happened. What this means is that you need to deal with the reality of the world. What that really means to you is that you need to face what is and not what you think something is. This may be a very sorrowful and bitter thing to try to do. It is very important that you be strict with yourself. You must deal in reality. But also, be a littke kinder to those involved and especially to yourself. Remember that nothing lasts forever...hopefully that means your pain to. |
